A couple weeks ago, Kevin and I took the 5 Love Languages test online. It was spur-of-the-moment and casual, the asking and answering of questions during muted commercial breaks while watching The Big Bang Theory reruns. We’d taken the test once before, but it had been a few years, and our relationship has evolved since then. Still, I think our preferred love languages had remained the same.
Kevin needs Quality Time to feel loved, and I’m needy – Words of Affirmation and Quality Time tying at the top of the list with 9 points apiece.
Taking the quiz was a good reminder for me. In the evening, when I ask about Kevin’s day, I need to be present and listen while he answers. I don’t need to check my phone or flip through the mail or start dinner – listening perhaps, but not focused. Instead I need to make eye contact, ask questions, and show him that my complete and undivided attention is on him. I need to focus on treating everyday moments like Quality Time. Because they are. And that communicates love to Kevin in a way that is significant and meaningful to him.
Coffee and mint M&M’s speak right to his heart too.
Have you taken the love languages quiz? What is your preferred love language?